You’re not the only one who feels this way: Therapist reacts to “Can You Feel My Heart” by Bring Me The Horizon
“Can you hear the silence?
Can you see the dark?
Can you fix the broken?
Can you feel my heart?”
“Can You Feel My Heart” lyrics by Bring Me The Horizon
These lyrics are that call of, “can you understand what this pain is doing to me?” It is the call of someone who is in a place that is so dark that they're like, “you don't understand. This is not even me. This isn't even a choice. This is a depth of despair. This is a silence that is so loud. This is something that is pulling me into the bottom of the pit.”
The lyrics capture this feeling that no one else can possibly understand this level of despair. It's like, “can you feel it? Can you feel it? Am I crazy because I feel it? Am I alone? Because I feel it.”
“I can't drown my demons, they know how to swim.”
That has to be one of the best lines of all time. That is what it feels like when every single thing that you try to get better doesn't work. It's like falling with no bottom. It's like a never-ending pit. It's not that you want to die, but there's a feeling that it is the only choice is to not feel it all because what you feel is so painful that it feels impossible to keep living this way. This is how people with suicidal thoughts feel.
What people with suicidal thoughts need is our understanding and our willingness to admit that sometimes we can't understand. This song gives everybody a gift, whether it's feeling understood by this song, or allowing you to understand those who feel this way. This song gives us a way to recognize the pain and the depth of despair that people who think about ending their lives go through. When you understand the depth of that despair, you recognize that them making that choice makes sense, because it feels like the only option.
But we know it's not. I know it's not the best choice, and that's why I'm asking you if you feel this way, to admit it. Because even though it's scary to get close, it's what you need right now. Get started on our anonymous forum.
