The timing of tragic news is so unpredictable. When it comes, it changes everything. Memories spiral through our minds. Regrets surface in our stomachs. Sadness floods our hearts. We want to say the things we didn’t say and do the things we didn’t do. Hold them close. Hear their laugh. Watch their smile.
Death isn’t an easy thing to think about. For those of you who are mourning today, we sit in the sadness with you. We hold this space together for the loved ones who aren’t with us anymore and for the ones we know are suffering.
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For you who are considering ending your life, I’m so sorry for the pain you’ve tried everything to shake. I’m so sorry that this might be the first time you’ve heard someone say they’re sorry. I’m so sorry that you’ve been unnoticed for too long.
As we turn our thoughts to you, I just want to say that we don’t pretend we know what you’re going through or what’s been done to you. We don’t pretend to know the exact way you feel. We don’t pretend that we know the right answer for you. What we do want to offer is encouragement because maybe you could use some of that right about now. Here are three things we believe to be true about you and why we believe them. I pray they give you hope and comfort wherever you’re at in this moment.
YOU MATTER BECAUSE YOU WERE CREATED WITH WORTH.
You’re absolutely beautiful. You’re so strong. Stronger than we know. Daringly resilient. You were created for greatness, and you have everything it takes. You’re good enough exactly the way you are right now. Your presence is noticed. We smile as you smile because you’re delightful. You are lovable. Your hands create wonderful things. Your ideas are brilliant. Your input is needed. Your voice is worth hearing. You are wanted. You are needed. You are unique. You matter. You’re worth so much to us.
And even though we might not know you, we know all these things to be true about you because there is a God who created you beautifully. And we aren’t ashamed of one bit about who you are. Every piece fits perfectly with the other. You are a masterpiece.
YOU’RE NOT ALONE BECAUSE WE’RE WITH YOU.
We understand that you feel alone in what you’re going through. We did too. And even though we haven’t gone through the same thing, a lot of us have felt something similar. Hurt, neglected, stupid, insignificant, worthless, hopeless, empty, and alone. But we found that even when we felt our worst, someone else was going through it with us. And we know that’s true about you too because we’re here. With you. For you.
And there is a God whose love you can’t outrun. And even in the things you wished undone, He sees you. He knows you and accepts you right here, right now. He promised to be with you wherever you go. And even when you can’t feel Him close, you’re not alone because He’s with you too. For you too.
YOU’RE NOT INVISIBLE BECAUSE WE WOULD MOURN YOUR LOSS.
Even though I hadn’t talked to a friend of mine in months, my whole world stopped when he attempted suicide. My heart caved, and I immediately searched for ways I could reach out to him. Talk to him. Comfort his family. Be there beside him. Let him know what I’m telling you because he matters to me. And so do you.
We may not know each other, but I want the opportunity to because you matter. Because I know that you’re amazing, and I want to tell you why I think that. Because you’re not alone. You are not a burden.
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What do you need? How can we be with you in this?