Grace always wins

I’m one of those women who are sarcastic sometimes. Like when I’m tired or hungry or frustrated. All of a sudden, I get this razor sharp tongue and I’m saying things to people that border on mean.

And I know it cuts deep because I’ve seen their faces looking back at me. I will shake my head and hate myself and I’ll feel horrible and guilty.

I keep wanting to be one of those women who is just super nice all the time, who smiles a lot and isn’t downcast or annoyed at people in the grocery line.

But I’m not.

I’m sarcastic, and I feel the words weighing on me after I’ve hurt someone. I’ll ache and wallow in guilt, but that’s not all. It doesn’t stop there.

There’s grace, and I forget it. I don’t know what you’re struggling with today, but I’ve learned that I can’t dwell in sin. I will own up to it, but I can’t stay down because Christ loves me too much for me to hate myself. He came to pardon our mocking and sinful spirit, and I am foolish to think I can save myself by beating myself up for my sarcastic words.

Ephesians 2:8-9 tells us, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast.”

You’re not going to win on your own. You can pray desperately to be redeemed of your sin. You can ask the Holy Spirit to invade your soul, but beyond that, we have to stop dwelling in our wrongs. You can’t stay there and be restored. You have to let it go and let God do amazing work.

Now, I’m not downplaying the importance of apologizing or owning up to your wrongs. That’s an important step in the process, but it’s not the only one you have to make. My point is we can’t get stuck in sin because God’s grace allows salvation.

Does that sound too good to be true? Does that seem too full of “churchy” words?

I’ll put it this way: Grace always wins.

I’ve heard too many stories of people cowering in the corner after a relapse or wrong. You’re not meant to be afraid. You’re meant to be empowered. You’re meant to come back from the grave. You’re meant for purpose.

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  • OscarGareskog

    Thank you! I needed this! Bless you Amanda!

    • Amanda Casanova

      Thank you for reading!

  • observer

    Thank you for writing : ). Posts like these is the reason why i keep visiting this site.

    Short, to the point and honest and transparency (rare quality nowadays)

    I have been a very mean and mean spirited person at times in the past(and sometimes currently also). But!. I have learned to apologize. Especially to my parents.

    Your condition has a cure-love from Jesus.

    As for this community here-i´m excited about the future!

    Each situation has different viewpoint,

    God Bless You!

    • Amanda Casanova

      Love this: “Your condition has a cure. Love from Jesus.” Great stuff! Thanks for reading!

      • observer

        Love truly changes everything. It has a power to change even the meanest sociopath(knowing from the experience) to a humble, caring person.

        If you can they please write on the issue of loneliness. Latest research also shows that it has the same effect on health as smoking 15 cigarettes per day.

        I quit some time ago but i seriously consider starting again because i am confident and calm when i smoke myself thru day. Also more sociable.

        As this community-i would go even further-i have never seen so transparent and honest community(that people here admit their mistakes, not pretend that they are “perfect” in my whole life(and i have spent a lot time on the internet, also traveled a lot)

  • Dee

    “…we have to stop dwelling in our wrongs. You can’t stay there and be restored. You have to let go and let God do amazing work.”

    I need to frame this or something. So. Good. Thank you for posting.

  • Thomas W.

    Thank you for writing this, Amanda. I’ve been having a really hard time letting go and letting God, as the old (and somewhat cliche-sounding) adage goes, but reading this has given me a new perspective with which to look at grace, and not being so caught up in my wrongs.

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