Are you dedicated to your craft or consumed by addiction?
I’m just starting to realize that what a lot of people call their “career” “passion” or “desire” can often times be an unknown addiction in their heart, but no one seems to see it that way.
Especially if what they’re doing isn’t “hurting” anyone….
I bring this up because I just happen to be that guy. I’m addicted to quite a few things in my life. And in realizing this, I’ve discovered that moderation is the key to avoiding an addiction, because of the balance you set in motion.
I’m not here to start a debate over whether alcohol is right or worng, you have to make that decision yourself based on your beliefs, but let’s think about it for a second.
Would a glass of wine with dinner be considered evil? Not by many people. But would drinking 8 bottle of wine and waking up in a ditch be considered destructive? Definitely!
Moderation is the key. A drink no longer becomes a “drink” but drunkenness. When something is taken to the extreme it can easily become an addiction becuase the balance is no longer there. It doesn’t even have to be alcohol. If you consume 5 sodas a day think about how destructive all that sugar is towards your body. Yet, it’s quite common for many people and high school students to drink soda after soda without thinking of the consequences. It’s funny that we put limitations on things we see as “evil” due to social stigma, but the reality is EVERYTHING can be taken to the extreme if there’s not balance.
Lets look at other ways we can see a “good thing” go bad.
Perhaps you know a parent like this or this is your dad. He works 10 hour days 5-6 days a week. Then he comes home and is so exhausted that he needs to just relax on the couch or go to bed early?
This is another good thing gone wrong. The man is picking up his responsibility to work and support his family and he’s providing. I applaud that as so many other fathers just decide to shut the door, get in the car and never return.
But the problem is he’s overworking himself and is unable to feed his family emotionally or spiritually. He lacks his own personal time, time with family and is unfortunately always running on empty which leads him to being there physically but being checked out emotionally. And this is why you see so many young men and women who had everything they wanted in life, and yet completely hate their fathers.
What about relationships?
How many of us have been OBSESSED with someone? I know I’m guilty!
I’m fairly certain I stalked a girl in middle school. I straight up called her all the time, always talking about her, trying to “bump” into her at parties or shows. I’d even try and flirt with other girls around her to make her jealous. The funny thing is we were friends and actually had an amazing relationship. We would open up to one another and end up talking for hours on the phone and often discuss very real personal issues.
I was in the dreaded “friend zone”.
In the end, I tried taking it somewhere way beyond with my obsession over her. That only distanced us and pretty soon she wanted nothing to do with me.
We need to really take a look at what we desire/love/want and see how we are keeping balance in our lives.
If we desire to have relationships with others then we need to make sure we don’t get consumed by them. We love working hard at our jobs or dreams. Let’s just make sure we don’t end up abandoning other important things in our lives while doing so. Enjoy a tasty beverage from time to time? Sure, just don’t let it control you.
Bottom line? You should have control in the things in life or they will end up controlling you.